But I got very good advice from people I rely on for that type of thing, and it was this: See it as a positive. And I really embraced that advice and now that I’m settled, typing at my desk, looking out my large windows across a newly appointed office, I definitely feel that that eviction notice was absolutely a positive. Yes, I’ve got higher rent, but my vision for my business has expanded with my new space and a fresh energy accompanies me as I walk to my office each morning! Yes, one of the great aspects of my new location is that it is close enough to home that I can walk to work.
Chalk this down to one of those life experiences where the thing happening to you is not welcome, but turns out to be the very best medicine for your life. I would probably have stayed in my old location for as long as they let me. I would have been comfortable with its limited space, smaller windows, and décor that never really expressed myself, and my vision of my business would have remained to scale. But, thankfully, life intervened and caused me to grow. There were some growing pains, some anxiety and inconvenience, but sooner than I anticipated, I was feeling a new sense of thriving that awakened me to an awareness that this change was really something I very much needed.
In my practice, I often see this story unfold that I now am living through. The story of an unwelcome intervention from life causing an uprooting of old settled foundations and the stirring up of anxiety, stress, inconvenience, and pain of all kinds. But this is only the setting of the story, because the plot is all about how these people I get to work with find the capacity to embrace the uprooting as a positive, throw themselves forward into growth, even in the midst of very difficult challenges, and ultimately find themselves in a new place of thriving from which they conclude that this intervention was exactly what was needed.
This isn’t everyone’s story, but it’s a good story to know, so that you can ask yourself: Is there a chance in the moment of all this upset, not only that I can see it as a positive, but also that when I get through it all, I may find myself understanding it was indeed the thing that I really needed, the thing that helped me find a bigger, more satisfying space for everything in my heart?
At Family Tree Mediation, my goal, no matter what your story is, is to use constructive communication, principled analysis, and creative insight to help you, your family, and those important to you, each find that bigger, more satisfying space for everything in your heart.