Greetings from the College Terrace Green Team! First off, my apologies for posting these results on a hidden page on my business website -- It was the easiest way I could figure out to make the large jpegs providing the results appear at a size large enough to be somewhat readable and still be easily accessible by a link on the Next Door social network.
As for the results, 65 people responded out of the 555 College Terrace neighbors on Next Door. For most of the 10 questions, there are two charts. The first is a bar chart that shows the percentage of survey takers who grew a given type of plant, saw a given type of animal, undertook a given kind of activity, etc. The second chart simply states that percentage by number and also indicates the exact number of survey takers who grew that type of plant, saw that type of animal, undertook that activity, etc. These charts are spread out over seven webpages. You can navigate through them at the bottom of each page.
Individually written responses regarding requests for help are not included below, but they have been tallied and the Green Team will be considering whether we are able to follow up on these requests and how to make that possible.
The Green Team hopes you have fun looking at some of what's going on in our neighborhood. Have a great Fall Harvest! -- Hank
Proprietor of Family Tree Mediation
Serving Redwood City, Atherton, Menlo Park, Palo Alto, Mountain View,
Los Altos and the wider Peninsula & San Francisco Bay Area.
Amid hard economic times, the skyrocketing burdens of college loans, and an inaccessible housing market, there is a growing trend increasingly reported in the news of adult children moving back in with their parents following graduation from college. No doubt for many parents and many young adult children, this new living dynamic is stressful and even painful.
We have all grown up with an expectation of increasing prosperity from generation to generation and for many moving out on one’s own is an important symbol signifying that that expectation of prosperity is on its way to being fulfilled. The symbolic disappointment of that expectation inspires all kinds of different emotional responses from both parents and young adult children.
In addition to the emotions that attend a graduate’s moving back in with his or her parents are a host of practical issues relating to any household. How do the housing costs get covered? How does the home get cleaned? What impact do visitors have on the other members of the household? How do people communicate about important household needs? How much privacy do household members get? The list of such questions that may come up is a long one.
Often attending the practical aspects of these questions is a diverse range of value judgments, personal experiences, relationship histories, and awkwardness before uncharted territory that together result in very different perceptions on any given issue.
With all of these factors at play at once, it’s understandable if the peace and contentment of home has been shaken.
These days, the cost of higher education is soaring higher and higher indeed. Just to get into a good college, increasingly large numbers of students are relying on SAT and Achievement Test preparatory courses at considerable expense. Many families take the additional step of hiring a consultant to help their child put together the strongest possible college application packet.And before the application stage, substantial investments are also frequently made in athletics coaches, music teachers, educational camps and programs outside of school, and a host of other opportunities aimed at developing the interests and talents of their maturing children. Thus, in addition to the obvious emotional investment families have in seeing their young adults find their way happily into the world, there is also an astounding financial investment as well.
In offering communication facilitation and education coaching services to families with young adults in the midst of their transition to independence, Family Tree Mediation seeks to help young adults and the families who support them to make the most of the opportunity of college and to begin their adult life well equipped to navigate their own pursuit of happiness through whatever challenges may come.
Here’s why communication/education coaching for the whole family during a young adult’s transition to independence is worth your consideration.
A few examples: When might a mediator be able to help your family navigate a difficult, but important topic? Answering this question is easier with the help of a few examples. Consider the following scenarios:
The thing that these three scenarios share most in common is that each involves a network of intersecting family relationship and a sense that the wellbeing of one or more loved ones is at risk. In addition, there is an implicit question whether the family members will be able to communicate effectively about the issues at hand in order to adequately care for each others’ wellbeing and the family bonds they all share.
The question Family Tree Mediation asks you to consider is this:
Can a skilled and neutral, third party mediator help your family take care of each other, navigate difficult transitions, repair old rifts, and/or otherwise help you to improve the quality of your communication and relationship patterns?
For many, mediation is a legal word that brings to mind divorce settlements, testamentary challenges, or business breach of contract suits. This understanding is rapidly changing, however, as a result of four decades of intense activity and growth in the mediation field. During this time, mediators and researchers have developed and proven many new communication tools that are not necessarily legal in nature, but are universal to the types of conversations we have every day, all day long. Appreciation has also grown for the wide applicability of mediation and the unique function a neutral, outside party can play in structuring and facilitating a conversation that would otherwise be hard to free from negative emotion.
Here are ten ways that Family Tree Mediation can help your family navigate difficult conversations and decisions by facilitating your family meeting:
If you have questions you would like to ask about Family Tree Mediation’s family meeting facilitation services or if you would like to schedule an appointment, you can call me at (650) 762-TREE [762-8733] or email me using the email form on our Contact Us page. Also, please call or email if you have any questions you would like to discuss.
Proprietor of Family Tree Mediation
Serving Redwood City, Atherton,
Menlo Park, Palo Alto, Mountain View,
Los Altos and the wider Peninsula &
San Francisco Bay Area.